Americo Mello

Try to remember why you are gathered together, and focus on that, think about the positive aspects of your family, the love that is there, and keep that uppermost in your mind.

Americo Mello understands this sentiment, and says there are two areas we can fix if we are dreading the family gathering. First, change our behaviors leading up to ‘ the big day, ’ prior to the gathering, engage in calming behaviors especially exercise. Take a walk, or practice meditation. This will prepare your mind for the family gathering.

Do n’t expect anything that is probably unrealistic your uncle may still drink too much, your nephews may still fight over the remote. Accept that some things don’t change.

It will be helpful to remember that you ca n’t change other people, and even if some change is possible, it probably is not going to happen at the Christmas party, it’s also helpful to be prepared for the stress, ready for the behaviors that are unpleasant or upsetting.